From the moment we’re born, relationships shape how we see ourselves and connect with others. Early bonds with caregivers influence our sense of safety, trust, and self-worth. When these bonds are secure, we’re more likely to build healthy relationships later in life. But when they are disrupted through neglect, inconsistency, trauma, or loss it can create patterns that continue into adulthood.
Attachment-Focused Therapy helps clients understand and heal these patterns. By exploring attachment styles and their impact on relationships, this therapy strengthens trust, emotional security, and connection.
At Tiny Therapy Collective, we provide online attachment-focused therapy across Ontario, supporting individuals and couples as they work toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Understanding Attachment Styles
Attachment theory describes four main attachment styles:
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Secure – Feeling safe to rely on others and confident in your worth.
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Anxious – Worrying about rejection or abandonment, often seeking reassurance.
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Avoidant – Struggling to rely on others, valuing independence but avoiding closeness.
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Disorganized – A mix of anxious and avoidant behaviours, often connected to trauma.
These patterns can influence how you show up in relationships with partners, friends, family, and even at work.
Who is Attachment-Focused Therapy For?
This approach is particularly helpful if you:
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Struggle with trust, intimacy, or vulnerability in relationships
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Carry wounds from childhood neglect, abuse, or inconsistent caregiving
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Want to build a healthier relationship with yourself and others
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Are navigating relationship transitions, parenting challenges, or grief
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Feel stuck repeating the same unhealthy relationship cycles
Attachment-focused therapy can support both individuals and couples in breaking old patterns and creating new, secure connections.
How Attachment-Focused Therapy Works
In sessions, your therapist will:
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Explore your attachment history – Understanding how early relationships shaped current patterns.
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Identify current challenges – Recognizing how attachment shows up in present relationships.
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Build awareness and healing – Challenging unhelpful beliefs about yourself and others.
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Practice secure attachment behaviours – Learning skills like setting boundaries, expressing needs, and trusting others.
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Strengthen relationships – Supporting healthier communication, intimacy, and emotional regulation.
This process is gentle and collaborative, ensuring that healing happens at a pace that feels safe.
Benefits of Attachment-Focused Therapy
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Builds healthier, more secure relationships
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Reduces anxiety, fear of abandonment, and defensiveness
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Increases self-awareness and self-worth
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Heals relational wounds from childhood or past trauma
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Strengthens emotional regulation and resilience
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Supports both individual growth and couple dynamics
Why Attachment-Focused Therapy Works Well Online
Healing relationship patterns doesn’t require being in the same room. Online therapy allows clients to explore attachment concerns in a safe, familiar environment. In fact, many find that being in their own space makes it easier to discuss vulnerable topics.
Advantages of online attachment-focused therapy include:
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Access to trained therapists across Ontario
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Comfortable, private sessions that reduce anxiety around vulnerability
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Flexibility for individuals and couples with busy schedules
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Real-time application of skills in daily life and relationships
Everyday Examples of Attachment-Focused Therapy
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For anxiety in relationships: Learning to self-soothe and build trust instead of constantly seeking reassurance.
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For avoidant patterns: Practicing small steps toward vulnerability and connection.
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For couples: Exploring how each partner’s attachment style influences conflict, closeness, and communication.
By increasing awareness and practicing secure behaviours, clients often notice improvements not only in relationships, but also in self-confidence and overall well-being.
Attachment-Focused Therapy vs. Other Approaches
While CBT and DBT focus on thoughts and behaviours, attachment-focused therapy emphasizes relationships and emotional bonds. It can be integrated with modalities like EFT or Gottman Method for couples, or with trauma-informed care for individuals with complex histories.
At Tiny Therapy Collective, we often blend attachment-focused therapy with other evidence-based approaches to create holistic, personalized care.
Benefits of Attachment-Focused Therapy at a Glance
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Heals relational wounds
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Builds secure, healthy connections
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Increases trust, intimacy, and communication
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Reduces anxiety and avoidance in relationships
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Effective online across Ontario
Getting Started with Attachment-Focused Therapy in Ontario
If past experiences are affecting your relationships today, attachment-focused therapy can help you heal and build the secure bonds you deserve.
At Tiny Therapy Collective, our therapists provide compassionate, evidence-informed attachment-focused therapy online across Ontario. Whether you’re seeking to strengthen your relationships or reconnect with yourself, we’re here to support your growth.
Ready to explore Attachment-Focused Therapy? Book a free 15-minute consultation today and start building stronger, healthier relationships.
